Mindset

The Success Psychology

Unless you have a frame of misuccess pschologynd that will enable you to actually achieve your goals and then to consolidate those gains into SUCCESS, you are pretty much guaranteed to live a pretty unfulfilled and frustrated life. I mean it really doesn’t matter what books you read, what courses you take, what blogs you read IT WON’T MATTER unless you have the RIGHT FRAME OF MIND to welcome and expect success in your life.


I heard a quote once “success is 80% psychology and 20% activity“, I’m not sure I agree with that 100% but its pretty close.  Success begins with a unshakeable belief of what you can achieve and what you want to achieve,  the second thing is an unshakeable commitment and plan of action that you will carry out your belief.

If you haven’t already experienced it along the way, the chances are you will.  No matter what you are trying to achieve, wealth creation, marathon running, climbing Mt Everest, retiring early and travelling e.t.c, there will be plenty of people, like friends family, bank managers, that will try and torpedo your goals and efforts,  they will tell you that you success plans are “not possible”  or “It can’t be done”, or my favorite “Why on earth would you want to do that your should do BLAH BLAH”. 

I like to think  that most people are well meaning and want the best for you, but when they say things like that its usually a result of their own life per-conditioning , or they feel threatened that if you go on to achieve your goals they will be wrong and left behind, or maybe they are a little jealous that you’ve gone onto do something positive with your life and they are still stuck in the grinder.

My advice to you, is do not let these people turn you away, or stop you from trying to achieve your beliefs and goals.

You need to have a unshakeable belief in the following two things.

1. Achieving your goals is possible -  i.e. Becoming wealthy (hey plenty of people have done it before you).

2.  Achieving your goals is possible for YOU. – ie.  You are able to become wealthy.

They are thousands of people that have been on the same path before you and achieved their goals.  Also plenty of people that have fallen of the path and never tried again. You’ve only got to tune into the latest reality TV program to see people battling away at their Goals, live on TV, think The Biggest Loser .  There are plenty of courses and resources that you can turn to  learn the action part of the SUCCESS Journey.  I mean there are blogs like this one, travel blogs, finance blogs, How to blogging blogs, fitness blogs, you get the picture.

But the SUCCESS PSYCHOLOGY is up to you, you are the one that can make the changes in your life, there is plenty of help and support resources out there for you.  But I can only show you the path, NO ONE can walk it for you, that alone is your responsibility you are the one that is in the driver seat.

There is a stack of reading, resources, seminars that you can attend.  Self education should always form part of your ongoing commitment to knowledge and achieving your own goal.

The healing temple

A MEDITITATIVE VISIT
TO THE HEALING TEMPLE

MeditationSit comfortably, let your eyes close. Bring your attention to your breath. Feel your breath and your body as you sit, without trying to change them. Notice what’s comfortable and what’s uncomfortable. Notice if you are sleepy or awake. Notice if there is lots of clutter in the mind or if it is quiet. Just be aware of what is. Notice the state of your heart. Does it feel contracted? Does it feel soft and open? Or is it somewhere in the middle? Is it tired, is it joyful? Notice and receive what is present.

Then imagine you are magically transported to a beautiful healing temple or power spot, a place of great wisdom and love. Take as much time as you need to sense it, feel it, picture it, in any way that feels good to you. Sense yourself sitting there, restfully and attentively meditating in this place. As you sit at this temple, this place of great wisdom, begin to reflect on your own spiritual journey more deeply. Gradually let yourself be aware of the wounds you carry that will require healing in the course of your journey. Breathe softly, and gently feel whatever arises.

As you sit, a wonderful and wise being from this healing temple will gently approach you. When this being comes quite near, you can picture or imagine or sense who or what they are. They will bow lightly and then come over and put the gentlest hand on a part of your body where you are deeply wounded. With their most loving care, let them touch the part of your body that holds one of your sorrows. Let them teach you their healing touch. If you cant feel their touch then take your own hand as you sit at the temple and imagine that you bring it to the place of your deepest wound, the place of sorrow or difficulty, touching it with your hand as if you yourself were that beautiful being. Know that no matter how many times you have buried or resisted your sorrow, no matter how many times you have greeted it with your hatred, you can finally open to it.

Let your own attention become like the hand of this wonderful wise being. Touch this place of sorrow with softness and tenderness. As you touch it, explore what is there. Is it warm or cool there? Is it hard, tight or is it soft? Is it vibrating, moving or is it still? Let your awareness be like the loving touch of the Buddha or the Goddess of Compassion, of Mother Mary or Jesus. What is the temperature and texture of this sorrow? What colour is there to be felt? Let yourself become aware of all your feelings with a very loving and receptive heart. Let them be anything they need to be. Then very gently and softly, as if you were the Goddess of Compassion herself, touch it with pure sweetness. Open yourself to the pain. What is the core of this place that has been wrapped up and held inside you for so long? As you look at it, let yourself see how much you have closed of to it, how much you have suppressed it or rejected it, wished that it would go away, wished that you didn’t have to feel it, and treated it with fear and aversion. Let yourself sit peacefully, opening your heart to this pain at last.

Rest in this temple, allowing your healing and compassionate attention to suffuse every part of it. Stay as long as you wish. When you are ready to leave, imagine yourself bowing with gratitude.

AS YOU LEAVE,

REMEMBER THIS TEMPLE IS INSIDE OF YOU.

YOU CAN ALWAYS GO THERE.

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Life – Are you ready for it?

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Thinking outside the box

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Need to Quit Smoking

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A Starter Guide To Self Improvement

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Sleeping Well some tips for a good nights sleep


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Motivation forms the heart of Self Development


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