Have you ever had that moment in your life where all your doubts, fears and insecurities that you wrap yourself up in, for some reason you seem to come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.”  More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people have it better than us.- when in reality, the fact is, most people are thinking just the same as us.

Have you ever been at a party or a local bar, and you spot a totally eye-catching girl or guy sitting by themselves, casually sipping on a glass of Champagne or a cold beer.  You think to yourself, “They look so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read their mind, you would see a bunch of thoughts and you might just be amazed that their thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t girls or guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”

Or we look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”

Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.

Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know.

I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s  around, and she doesn’t notices how badly she became socially handicapped – gradually affecting the people in her environment.

One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”,  “Do I always sound so argumentative?”,  “Do I talk too loud?”,  “Does my breath smell?”,  “Do I ever bore you when were together?”.

If you ask questions, in this way, the other person will know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!”  Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve her self.

One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.

Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.

Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on.  Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got  10 more reasons to envy them.

We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves.Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.

You know SELF HELP is a interesting thing, people view it very differently, some might think its finding some sort of spiritual awaking, for others it might be losing a few extra kilos or finding some tips, tricks or tools to help battle depression even looking for a new job.

 Whatever it is for you, the real answer is here, YOU HAVE TO HELP YOURSELF, it’s great to know there is a problem, it’s great to spend the time and research ways to address whatever problem you might be having, it’s great to think about tackling the problem. more »

Well, are you? Are you really ready? I mean it, are you really ready for what life brings? Have you ever asked, what is life?

Life just happens, we can get in the way and try to manipulate it to suit our every whim or we can learn to understand that life is going to happen anyway it wants to and that what ever it may bring us, we can enjoy it. (And yes, for all you fans of infinite possibilities we can create some things we want, however we have to ask ourselves, what or who are we sacrificing to achieve those things but that is a topic for a future article) more »

There is no doubt that sometimes no matter how hard you are trying, you seem to never get anywhere. With how busy our live can be today, there is no doubt that it can get really hard to keep some momentum in your life which keeps you moving forward. So with that in mind here’s 7 Momentum Questions you can use every day to help you achieve your goals and give you some motivation.

1. Why is it important for me to manage my stress ? more »

Ok, so we’ve all heard the expression “thinking ouside the box,” but do you have any idea on how to do it?  There are some really simple techniques for coming up with solutions “outside the box.”

When innovators talk about thinking outside the box, they mean coming up with creative ways to solve problems – new ways to look at things. How do they do it? How can you do it too? We first have to ask what the “box” is. Then we can look at how to get outside of it. more »