Hey people want success,  but guess what, there are two types of people, successful and unsuccessful.  If you are wanting to find some success in your life, try studying people that already have it in their life.  Take a look at their success rewarding principles they use in their life,  and try adding them to yours.

If you study the unsuccessful people long enough, you are going to find that they suffer from a mind-deadening thought disease, EXCUSITIS !  more »

Have you ever had that moment in your life where all your doubts, fears and insecurities that you wrap yourself up in, for some reason you seem to come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.”  More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people have it better than us.- when in reality, the fact is, most people are thinking just the same as us.

Have you ever been at a party or a local bar, and you spot a totally eye-catching girl or guy sitting by themselves, casually sipping on a glass of Champagne or a cold beer.  You think to yourself, “They look so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read their mind, you would see a bunch of thoughts and you might just be amazed that their thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t girls or guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”

Or we look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”

Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.

Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know.

I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever she’s  around, and she doesn’t notices how badly she became socially handicapped – gradually affecting the people in her environment.

One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”,  “Do I always sound so argumentative?”,  “Do I talk too loud?”,  “Does my breath smell?”,  “Do I ever bore you when were together?”.

If you ask questions, in this way, the other person will know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!”  Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her improve her self.

One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.

Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.

Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on.  Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got  10 more reasons to envy them.

We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves.Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.

You know SELF HELP is a interesting thing, people view it very differently, some might think its finding some sort of spiritual awaking, for others it might be losing a few extra kilos or finding some tips, tricks or tools to help battle depression even looking for a new job.

 Whatever it is for you, the real answer is here, YOU HAVE TO HELP YOURSELF, it’s great to know there is a problem, it’s great to spend the time and research ways to address whatever problem you might be having, it’s great to think about tackling the problem. more »

Unless you have a frame of mind that will enable you to actually achieve your goals and then to consolidate those gains into SUCCESS, you are pretty much guaranteed to live a pretty unfulfilled and frustrated life. I mean it really doesn’t matter what books you read, what courses you take, what blogs you read IT WON’T MATTER unless you have the RIGHT FRAME OF MIND to welcome and expect success in your life.

I heard a quote once “success is 80% psychology and 20% activity“, I’m not sure I agree with that 100% but its pretty close.  Success begins with a unshakeable belief of what you can achieve and what you want to achieve,  the second thing is an unshakeable commitment and plan of action that you will carry out your belief.

If you haven’t already experienced it along the way, the chances are you will.  No matter what you are trying to achieve, wealth creation, marathon running, climbing Mt Everest, retiring early and travelling e.t.c, there will be plenty of people, like friends family, bank managers, that will try and torpedo your goals and efforts,  they will tell you that you success plans are “not possible”  or “It can’t be done”, or my favorite “Why on earth would you want to do that your should do BLAH BLAH”. 

I like to think  that most people are well meaning and want the best for you, but when they say things like that its usually a result of their own life per-conditioning , or they feel threatened that if you go on to achieve your goals they will be wrong and left behind, or maybe they are a little jealous that you’ve gone onto do something positive with your life and they are still stuck in the grinder.

My advice to you, is do not let these people turn you away, or stop you from trying to achieve your beliefs and goals.

You need to have a unshakeable belief in the following two things.

1. Achieving your goals is possible -  i.e. Becoming wealthy (hey plenty of people have done it before you).

2.  Achieving your goals is possible for YOU. – ie.  You are able to become wealthy.

They are thousands of people that have been on the same path before you and achieved their goals.  Also plenty of people that have fallen of the path and never tried again. You’ve only got to tune into the latest reality TV program to see people battling away at their Goals, live on TV, think The Biggest Loser .  There are plenty of courses and resources that you can turn to  learn the action part of the SUCCESS Journey.  I mean there are blogs like this one, travel blogs, finance blogs, How to blogging blogs, fitness blogs, you get the picture.

But the SUCCESS PSYCHOLOGY is up to you, you are the one that can make the changes in your life, there is plenty of help and support resources out there for you.  But I can only show you the path, NO ONE can walk it for you, that alone is your responsibility you are the one that is in the driver seat.

There is a stack of reading, resources, seminars that you can attend.  Self education should always form part of your ongoing commitment to knowledge and achieving your own goal.

A MEDITITATIVE VISIT
TO THE HEALING TEMPLE

Sit comfortably, let your eyes close. Bring your attention to your breath. Feel your breath and your body as you sit, without trying to change them. Notice what’s comfortable and what’s uncomfortable. Notice if you are sleepy or awake. Notice if there is lots of clutter in the mind or if it is quiet. Just be aware of what is. Notice the state of your heart. Does it feel contracted? Does it feel soft and open? Or is it somewhere in the middle? Is it tired, is it joyful? Notice and receive what is present.

Then imagine you are magically transported to a beautiful healing temple or power spot, a place of great wisdom and love. Take as much time as you need to sense it, feel it, picture it, in any way that feels good to you. Sense yourself sitting there, restfully and attentively meditating in this place. As you sit at this temple, this place of great wisdom, begin to reflect on your own spiritual journey more deeply. Gradually let yourself be aware of the wounds you carry that will require healing in the course of your journey. Breathe softly, and gently feel whatever arises. more »